downloadDoritos? Like what the fuck? How did he know to call me that name? He’s a Brit. They don’t have Doritos over there. Or do they? I want to tell him to go to hell. To shut the fuck up. I’ve been traumatized by the name “Doritos” all my public school life and right now, it has no place here.

Challenge #1: Pre-Army Period of Serving in the Israel Defense Forces

When I look back at the pre-army period of my Israel Defense Forces, the part that involved a three month service working on a kibbutz, one of the hardest challenges was trying to accept and get along with this British soldier named Darren. (He was a real pain in the neck, let me tell you.)

Here’s what he did: (From Chapter Ten – New Home)

By our third weekly meeting, he stands up and shouts, “I WANT TO THROW THE GIRLS OUT OF THIS GARIN!” He looks straight at me. I want to cringe. Or better yet, get up and leave. At me! By now, I clearly believe he has the power to throw us out. Or at least, me.

Darren looks stupid with his puffed out face googly eyeballs like a toad’s and the silly rigidity in his eyes that exude unnecessary suspicion and fear. Man, if I stayed on that dinky settlement maybe I wouldn’t have these kooky problems. 

imagesThe Theme of Finding a Home: Then and Now

Now, when I think of Darren in mid forties, I just HAVE to laugh.

I’m sure you’ve had your fair share of those moments too and maybe you are confronting a “hard-ass” person right now in your work and life who is interfering with your sense of peace and security which are important elements for building a home.

As Darren continues to attack me along with the other five girls, I have two options. I can:

1. Relinquish my power, step into childhood tactics of worry and fret to help overcome difficulties.

2. I can step into the peace and quiet afforded by the lonely desert where I’m stationed as part of my kibbutz service, which caters to the shy, scared and lonely person in me.

In the end, I do both as I attempt to try and resolve the issue with more understanding by confronting other more “inexperienced” people who know how to deal with this kind of childish behavior Darren exhibits, but my feelings of insecurity and terror dominate.

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